What is the name of my Original Tribe?
So, here we are another day unfolding and a bit more info. The latest count on Ancestry.com are over 19,000 DNA matches. Overwhelming on what to do with them. I am so fortunate to have such great DNA matches / cousins that continually assist me. They volunteer their time to help me find my truth; part of it is also theirs. But they have most of their answers; this they do out of their own generosity and for that I am truly grateful!!
My current tree on Ancestry Research Tree: Urdaz Family. all thanks to my cousin George who has uncovered / researched so much information.
So, what has been uncovered.
My maternal great great grandparents; Pedro [Roman] Urdaz & Juliana Correa; also from Arecibo, PR. There’s a story circulating that Juliana’s dad was from Spain. My my great grandparents; Hipolito Rivera and Francisca Urdaz y Correa, circa 1860’s from Arecibo, PR. One of their eight children should be my grandparent. From the way the DNA matches are revealing themselves it seems most likely that one of these three Rivera y Urdaz children should turn out to be it: Jose, Angel or Francisco.
Presently I am leaning towards Francisco 1891-? & his wife Guadalupe Soto y Serrano 1896-1984. Angel 1887-1958 was married to Trinidad Ocasio y Cebollero 1889-1925, Jose 1856-1934 was married to Susana Borras y Menendez 1882-1922 and Carmen Santana y Diaz 1894?
Finally, I can now firmly state that my surnames are: Rivera, Urdaz, Correa, Roman?, Miranda, and Pollaci – from my life sustaining tribe!
Yes, this blog is about my search – but my search started when my adoptive mother was on her death bed 24 years ago. My sister; also adopted, and I found our adoption paperwork. It was, I thought at the time, the key leading to all my answers.
It was not my key I held; but my sisters. It held her name and from there her truths would unfold. Almost 22 years ago, I was able to give her the gift of her biological family. I had connected some info on an adoption bulletin board on AOL. That first contact find was made in the middle of the night and I had to wait until at least 7:30 AM before I could share this my sister, JA. I don’t remember if I even slept. I remember she wasn’t as keen on finding her family as I seemed to be; but she wanted her truth. She found out her truth and so much more. She learned of a family that had always been searching for her.
The post on AOL was a maternal aunt searching for her and a full brother that had always been looking. Hours passed in the day before I was able to catch up with JA and find out what had transpired when she had spoken to her aunt.
JA had another large family. There were several siblings, the paternal side practically tripling the maternal side. I think 7 or 8 paternal siblings, one full brother and 2 maternal siblings.
Well, there’s a brief history; but why am I sharing this. I am in ‘Unchartered Waters.’ You see, one of JA’s paternal siblings, a sister younger by about 16 months, Trish, is leaving this world momentarily. She has fought the good fight against pancreatic cancer and some other complications. Trish will be leaving this earth a loving and brave soul with cherished memories of her left behind. I really didn’t know her at all; but I am plagued with these thoughts and emotions.
- This isn’t my sibling, but I am so truly saddened.
- How do I help my sister, JA?
- How can I be there for her?
- What can I do to save her from this pain when I cannot share it the same way?
- No matter what had transpired with us, drifting apart and coming back together nothing would / will ever stop me from protecting her.
Memories from childhood and memories from adulthood creep into my mind . Memories of me stepping up to be there, support and even protect JA. Memories of JA always being there for me. Memories of experiencing the sadness of death of family members when we were young and so were they.
We were there, as much as children can be there, for the rest of the survivors. We were bereft because we too had lost them forever. We were much younger than those that had fallen from this place of the living. Maybe too young to be able to really express ourselves. We were mourning our cousins, aunt, uncle and grandparents. They were more than family; they were our lifeline after our parents, sometimes our protectors, our confidants, our friends & playmates; they were our beloved.
- Appreciate the here and the now!
- Reach out and let those important to you know, they make a difference to you!
- Let those you care about know they are important!
- Take a moment for yourself, take a deep breath and enjoy a moment just for you!
To you, my dear reader, I say thank you for letting me share this slightly off topic post.
JA always my #1 sister, my friend, my go-to, and so many more things that are too long to list; but if you are a sibling, then you know the list! And thank you for being you; you mean the world to me and make my world better!!!!
Unsure of even what the title for this should be; ‘more adoption stories’, ‘what an interesting DNA family we have’,
The bottom line is that I have found I am not so unique, not so alone. Our ‘DNA’ family seems to have a few more stories in the proverbial closet.
As I have delved into the world of DNA testing and been given a slew of ‘matches’ I have been privy to their stories as well.
There are several; these are the ones I know of:
AO – looking for her bio-dad. AS a an adult with an adult son; she finally heard the truth from her mom. She won’t believe anything until science, DNA test confirms it.
SO – Korean born, adopted West Coast, USA
BA – lives in the Carolina area, never had any identifying info
SM – really has no info, is looking
KA – figured it all out, denied by birth mother
MB – looking for immediate family info, parents perished at an early age; they were both 25. They left behind 5 small children to become orphans. Why are she & her siblings so fair with blond hair? What are there roots?
LF – born here on the East Coast, relocated to Europe where she has been for decades. Enlisted the assistance of a genealogical PI and found her mom & brother. After meeting & engaging with her bio-brother that has some serious emotional issues, she agrees with her mom; her being adopted out was the best thing the mom could have done.
SR – adopted out twice and then finally left home as a teenager. Out on her own, she is a success story. finally able to piece together her story because of another shared match that shed light. She knows her grandfather on his deathbed let her siblings know they had a sister out there and this regret could not go with him to the next plane.
DM & TB – sisters, they also have at least one other brother who I have noticed as a match for me in the DNA sites. They are looking for their dad.
SM – looking for her dad; was never in the picture growing up. Had no idea who he was. finally did DNA testing and a 3rd cousin to me matched her very closely.Turned out it was her dad’s first cousin. There was a brief reunion after he was ‘informed’ he had a daughter. Then it hit the rocks. Hoping that things work themselves out soon for them.
LV – very little info on her dad’s side of the family. One of many children spread far and wide … was he even ‘legit’?
Patricia – born in Spain, unsure of even her birth year, had surgery as an infant or toddler, scar to prove it. Her parents are probably from Puerto Rico. She has recently done DNA testing and is using social media and every other type of communication to get her story out. I am in awe of her perseverance, dedication, and all to well understand her obsession with finding out her truth. Her story We are in connected through social media, email back and forth, but there is a caveat for me and this new found cousin is that we are separated not just by the ocean; but by language. Her story is pasted below!
HA – half siblings out there; they didn’t grow up together and so they shun their blood.
MN – adopted, found his mom; looking for his dad.
Has a good relationship with his half sisters.
AR – grew up with very abusive, abandoning and inattentive mom. Finally met his father. After meeting him, mother divulged he was a product of rape.
HO – a 2nd to 4th cousin that might hold a key, a false hope; his mom was adopted; no information there either.
Reached out – waiting to hear back:
H – adopted out as infant; looking for her birth family & roots.
A – adopted, knows birth name
I – grew up in an orphanage in the Bronx
MV – a cousin of a cousin. We actually share many cousins; we are thinking probably we are cousins – but have been unconnected through random recombination. We have connected through social media and she is actually the translating go between for Patricia & I. She too is looking for her dad.
Patricia’s Story!!! Please feel free to share / re-post, talk about it / get the word out however you can!!!
New Information – Maternal surname – Adela / Paternal Surname – Thomas
Weighed in 2 lbs appox in the February 1976 – due to congenital heart condition? or low birth weight – unknown still at this time.
Our puppies, lovingly referred to as Ewoks, because they resemble the cartoon / Star Wars characters if the same name.
Eight years ago this upcoming Thanksgiving we became the proud owners of brother & sister, Java & Kona.
I wonder sometimes, is it fair that we took them from their mom, their siblings, their pack. That not only have we separated them from their biological family, but have tried to ‘re-wire’ their thinking, their actions; essentially their innate nature!
Is it right that we consider them property? After all they are living breathing beings that require food, water and some kind of relationship. Who is to say they need to be complex or be able to do what we do. They are beings filled with emotion; with their own minds, their own likes & dislikes, their own personalities.
Well, they are ours because of a fondness, a bit understated, we have for them and they for us. They aren’t objects or possessions; they are our furry children. We care for them, look out for them, consider their best interests, take them on vacations with us because we love them they are part of our family.
But, we are not there biological parents. Do they miss their family? Did we have the right to separate them?
It’s too late now for these two; but I am sooo happy we have them in our lives!